Maybe you just want to be happy, you poor, sad little person.These are the inds of problems that have spawned an entire industry of books- the Self Help genre.
There are other books that tell you how you can make yourself better through positive thinking, creative visualization, listening to Mozart or joining up with groups.
They 'll cite ancient wisdom or have countless testimonials from people who have tried their methods, and almost all of them have one thing in common: they do n't work.The self-help genre rests on a foundation of common sense ideas, things that sound like they should work, rather than an understanding of how the human mind actually does work.
If one pops up, just push it away and focus on the positive.Quick experiment: I want you, for the next minute, to not- I repeat not- think of a pink hippopotamus.
You then end up obsessing over the thing you 're trying not to think of, which is what you were trying to avoid in the irst place! It 's an idea that sounds like it should work, but it does n't, and that 's what Wiseman has collected in this books.
Wiseman combed through the literature, looking at scientific studies on human psychology and behavior to try and find simple, clear and effective ways of making your life better.
The bonus is that severa of these things can be done in under a minute.Some of the hings he presents are so simple that you do n't want to believe they 'd work.
It feels your heart pounding, your blood rushing, your adrenaline flowing, and it thinks, " Huh. I guess I must really like this person. " So, once you get off that ride, you have a little window of opportunity to increase the attraction you have for each other.Now let 's say you 're worrie about something.
When questioned later, the second group turned out to be much less angry than the second, and to be more likely to forgive the person who had hurt them.Okay, one more- you want to be creative, right?
Again, research has shown that people tend to work less hard in groups than they do on their own.
Being in a group makes you lazier, so if you want to get good ideas from a whole bunch of people, have them work alone first.
You 'll get more and better ideas that way.
As for focusing on the problem at hand, other studies have shown that the best thing to do is to distract yourself with something totally unrelated so that your unconscious mind can get some work done.
Work on a puzzle, draw a picture, think of a hundred ways to use a brick- anything but the problem you 're trying to solve.
Then, when you come back to the dilemma, you 're more likely to generate better ideas.As for the Mozart, it turns out that listening to Mozart does make you slightly more creative and intelligent ....
Everything Wiseman puts in this novel is a mall thing, a little effort, but when put together they add up.Even if you do n't really need a lot of alteration to your life- maybe you 're as happy as happy can be- it 's still a fascinating look into how our mids work, and the various thing that they can be hacked. ( Good work!